Strong love is the love that tells the extremely overweight relative, who is otherwise physically capable, to go get their own food from the kitchen. (Making an obese person get their own food and do their own favors, increases NEAT, and creates an accumulated health gain.) Weak love, false compassion, constantly goes and gets the food for the obese relative. Weak love does not think about the sacrifices that the other person needs to make in order to improve and overcome their weaknesses.